Salam Walykum!
I have a question that I need a fatwa too. I am soon to be engaged to a man in his late 20s, as there is a 3 years difference between us. He works two part time jobs with a modest income. Also, his parents want to buy a house. So, they have made it clear from the first time I met them that they want me to help paying for mortgage with him. As for me, I have a bachelor’s degree and also have two part time jobs and make modest income. The guy expects me to help him financially, but I also don’t want to feel pressured having to work two jobs to provide, when it is the husband’s responsibility and I don’t want to feel like that everything will collapse if I decide not to work. I want to feel like and be treated as a wife, a man providing to me and to be a house wife. I have been working all my life working to support my low income family, I am tired of acting like “the man” all my life. His knowledge about Islam is limited, I want him to understand that from an Islamic standpoint before culturally or socially that it’s required that a man must be the main provider and it’s a woman’s right to decide if wants to work or be a house wife. Therefore, I am not sure what to do in my situation. He gets upset every time the topic is brought up and lashes at me switching the topic with another issue which is bothering me because the situation is being ignored and I don’t want to walk into something with no clear expectations. I need to make a decision soon. Please I need help I have no one to ask,
Jazakum Allah Khairan!