I am a divorced Muslim mother of a 20 year old daughter (US citizen). I remarried a Muslim man with two children (Egyptian citizens) from a previous marriage. We are married 4 years. I am from the U.S. he is from Egypt where we live.
I have my own money both income and savings, and a business in the U.S. that still provides my income. I make more money than my husband.
My question:
My husband is always pressuring me to help pay for the house construction costs. I lent him $40k for the first floor and he has paid back $10k in 3 years. Now he is building the second floor and is pressuring me to help pay, not lend money for part of this project.
I feel because my daughter will have no right to receive any of this money back in inheritance and I will get a fraction of the money back if my husband passes away, I don’t want to contribute to these costs, plus he still owes me $30k. I told him I would pay for some of the furnishings and appliances etc but not the building. I need to keep my money so that I can have something to give my daughter as inheritance. He gets upset and tells me I live here why should I not pay? Why would I “invest” money in something I am guaranteed to only get a small fraction of my investment back. I am very willing to help furnish with my money to contribute.
Am I unreasonable for not helping with construction costs? Does he have a right to ask and pressure me to pay and be upset if I don’t? I thought as Muslims it is his responsibility to provide in this way,